坚守,是一种勇气

生活金点子 August 17th, 2010

本文来自读者 cocoheyali 投稿。

几年前,《士兵突击》这部军营题材的电视剧红遍了大江南北,人们频繁地谈论着它,就连一向落后潮流N年的我,也成为一个标准的兵迷。作为一个标准兵 迷,这部电视剧我看了不下数十遍,甚至现在,还会时不时地翻出来,慢慢品味。成才的油滑,许三多的木讷,袁郎的坏坏的笑…。里面的许多对白,许多的场景, 常常在我脑海里一遍遍重复地演绎着,经久不散。整部电视剧,给了人们太多的思考,给我的,就是两个字——坚守!

在草原上上的五班,许三多坚守着,寂寞地练着军姿。在钢七连,许三多坚守着,孤独地守着七连。在A大队,许三多坚守着,坚守自己的原则。整部电视 剧,或者在许三多的呈现给我们看的那段生命里,他都在坚守着,坚守自己的信仰,坚守着连他自己都不清楚的某些东西。但其实,许三多什么都没做。确实,他是 什么都没做,他只是在遵守规则,遵守本来是对的,但在一些环境下早就被人们淡化的某些规则。不管是五班,还是在一个人的七连,军队条令是对的,所以他遵守 着。就是这样一个只是遵守规则什么都没做的人,感动了整个中国人。

讽刺的是,我们中国人是最不喜欢遵守规则的。不管是银行的排队,还是公共事务部门的办事,甚至交通规则,我们一概不想遵守。总想插队,总想搞特殊,总希望自己是那个被优待的人。都已经养成了习惯, 办事之前,总要想办法,看能不能找找熟人,总想走捷径。成才就是这样,他聪明,他不愿意一步步慢慢往上挪,他总能给自己找条所谓的最宽的路。所以,在紧要 关头,他抛弃了钢七连。他认为那些所谓的规则,只是写出来给像许三多这样老实的人来遵守的,自己就应该受到优待。而许三多不一样,他不会投机取巧,他不圆 滑,他笨,他只知道遵守规则,哪怕在荒原上,没有人看得到,或者是在他一个人的连队,根本就没有必要,他一概不知道变通,他只知道遵守,遵守,还是遵守!

或许,我们之所谓感动,就是因为我们都以为违反规则的是别人,而遵守规则的是自己,所以,许三多的成功,让我们看到了希望。平凡的人,也能得到上天的眷顾,从平民做到老A。

生活的节奏越来越快,日子还是一天一天过,这世界却并不是原来的样子了。到处灯红酒绿,纸醉情迷。互联网让彼此的距离缩短到只是一瞬,世界另一端的 发生的事情,就好像在身边一样。到处有人一夜暴富,有人一夜成名。爱,从青梅竹马到相亲,到电视速配。诱惑,一次次引诱着我们的脆弱的心灵。在这样的一个光怪陆离的世界,有多少人还能坚守住自己?坚守住自己的原则,坚守住自己的信仰,坚守住人之所以称之为人的那些东西?蜗居,曾经一度让小三成了一种职业,让女大学生理直气壮地把包养协议晒到网上去。这一切的一切,无不冲击着中国五千年的社会道德的底线。如果有那么一天,人们的行为不再受到社会道德的约束,只是以纯粹的法律行为来断定对错,那么我们还有什么可以坚守的呢?

网络上,教你如何成功的书籍和课程笔笔皆是,《成功的五大要素》,《成功人士的十八个习惯》,甚至《成功人士都在干什么》。我们真的就那么需要修 炼,才能成功吗?其实,我们并不缺乏成功的必备要素,而是我们都丧失了坚守的勇气!我们的爷爷辈雪里滚,雨里爬,用肉体搏命,才有和平。我们的父辈,扛锄 头,背石头,满身泥泞,才有富贵。这些是用那些所谓的成功课程修炼来的吗?绝对不是,他们比我们多的,就是坚守!战场的寸步不让,商场上的诚实守信,就是 这些最本分,最老实的坚守,创造了在今天的我们看来不可思议的一个个奇迹。

在梦想构成的国度里,每个人都在幻想能够成为王子看中的那个灰姑娘,刹那间的回眸,来个华丽丽的转身,便能从此无忧无虑,无所求。可是,有多少人愿 意在遇到自己的贵人之前,像灰姑娘一样吃苦耐劳,历练自我呢?如果,你一辈子都遇不到自己的贵人,你是不是还是愿意坚守自我,愿意隐忍历练呢?灰姑娘的成 功转身,原因并不是王子的眷顾,而是在此之前在两位姐姐和继母的压迫下她对自己始终善良的那颗心的坚守!王者之门的跨入者的成功,并不是在对的时间遇到了 对的人,而是在此之前无数次无功而返的拜访。我们把眼光放在他们的成就上的时候,往往很容易就忽视了这成就背后的那些最简单的坚守!

许多的人,甚至刚从学校出来的小年轻,往往抬高自己,把自己的起点定的那么高,在还没有做任何付出的情况下,便期望自己能够展翅高飞,衣锦还乡。于 是,一年换数十份工作,每一份都做不长,如此简单的道理,他就是不明白,换一份工作,就又回到了起点,你连一点沉淀都没有,怎么往上爬?甚至有些人,一份 工作,做了几天,入职了又离职。诸不知,这期间产生的机会成本,几乎无法用金钱来计算。我们可以有一万个理由来抱怨,有十万个理由来指责别人,有一百万个理由来发牢骚,却找不到一个理由能让我们更简单、更成熟一点地去坚守。坚守自己的本份,坚守自己的内心,也是坚守自己内心最纯洁的那一方天地。

坚守,是一种勇气!我们的王牌业务员,不分白天黑夜的拜访客户,这是一种坚守!坚守,是一种态度!白芳礼老人几十年如一日地捡垃圾,卖废品,供养贫 困的学生上学,这是一种坚守!坚守,是一种行为!北京最帅的交警常年如一日地站在岗位上指挥交通,这是一种坚守!坚守,是一种信仰!天安门前一年三百六十 五天随太阳准时升起的五星红旗,是一种坚守!坚守,也是一种快乐!作为一个普通的员工,做好自己的工作,尽到自己的责任,快乐生活,快乐工作,这也是一种坚守!

要像许三多一样,做每件小事,都像救命稻草一样抓着,总有一天,别人回头的时候,会猛然发现,呵,我们手里抱着的,已经是可以让别人仰望的参天大树了!

成才最终还是明白了,所以他说,他要在这条路上,不管结果如何,都要坚持着跑完全程,不抛弃,不放弃!让我们感动的,就是这句话吧,不抛弃,不放弃,坚守到底!

Single Handle Every Task

By: Brian Tracy

Eat that frog! Every bit of planning, prioritizing and organizing comes down to this simple concept.

Your ability to select your most important task, to begin it and then to concentrate on it single mindedly until it is complete is the key to high levels of performance and personal productivity.

The Requirement for Every Great Achievement
Every great achievement of mankind has been preceded by a long period of hard, concentrated work until the job was done. Single handling requires that once you begin, you keep working at the task, without diversion or distraction, until the job is 100% complete. You keep urging yourself onward by repeating the words “Back to work!” over and over whenever you are tempted to stop or do something else.

Reduce Your Time By 50%
By concentrating single mindedly on your most important task, you can reduce the time required to complete it by 50% or more.

It has been estimated that the tendency to start and stop a task, to pick it up, put it down and come back to it can increase the time necessary to complete the task by as much as 500%.

Each time you return to the task, you have to familiarize yourself with where you were when you stopped and what you still have to do. You have to overcome inertia and get yourself going again. You have to develop momentum and get into a productive work rhythm.

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Develop Energy and Enthusiasm
But when you prepare thoroughly and then begin, refusing to stop or turn aside until the job is done, you develop energy, enthusiasm and motivation. You get better and better and more productive. You work faster and more effectively.

Never Waste Time
The truth is that once you have decided on your number one task, anything else that you do other than that is a relative waste of time. Any other activity is just not as valuable or as important as this job, based on your own priorities.

Action Exercises
Eat That Frog! Take action! Resolve today to select the most important task or project that you could complete and then launch into it immediately.

Once you start your most important task, discipline yourself to persevere without diversion or distraction until it is 100% complete. See it as a “test” to determine whether you are the kind of person who can make a decision to complete something and then carry it out. Once you begin, refuse to stop until the job is finished.

The “Best” Test by Chris Widener

Some time ago, I spoke to a group of salespeople in Kansas City as they kicked off their new team. It was exciting to see them get excited about making a difference through their work.

The topic they assigned me was “Simply the Best.” So as I prepared, I asked myself: What characteristics would help someone pass the “Best” Test? That is, what are the characteristics of those who become the “best” at what they do? Here are the thoughts I shared with them:

The Best Are Optimists. You can’t get to the top if you don’t think that there is a top or if you think you can’t make it. One characteristic of those who reach the peak is that they always believe that things can get better or be done better. This pushes them on to be their best.

The Best Have Vision. They can see ahead of the pack. Their eyes aren’t locked into the here and now. They see the bright future and what things will look like when they reach their destiny. While working hard for today, they live for the future! They do what Stephen Covey calls “begin with the end in mind.”

The Best Relentlessly Pursue Excellence. The status quo is not for them. They want to be the best and experience the best. And that means giving their best. They go the extra mile so that in everything they do, in everything they say and think, they are striving for excellence.

The Best Have a Lifelong Habit of Personal Growth. They don’t want to stay at the level they are at. They want to grow in their work, their intellect, their spirituality, their relationships, and in every area of their life. And they discipline themselves to put themselves in situations wherein they grow. Personal growth doesn’t “just happen.” You choose to grow. I always suggest what Zig Ziglar does and that is to enroll in “Automobile University.” Whenever you are driving around, listen to a personal or professional growth CD or MP3. Over the long run you will grow. Also, read more. The old saying is true: Leaders are readers. So are those who pass the “Best” Test.

The Best Understand That They Will Be Pushed by the Competition—and They Welcome It. Like the lead runner in the race who has someone on his heels, the best know that the competition is right behind them. They love it, though, because they know that the competition keeps them from becoming lazy and resting on their laurels. Instead, the competition pushes them to go faster and to achieve more—to remain the best by forging ahead.

The Best Have a Quest for Leadership. Someone has to lead—it may as well be the best! Those who attain it get there because they want to. They want to lead and help make a difference. And they want to be equipped with the skills necessary to lead others on to a better place.

The Best Leave a Legacy. They aren’t in it just for themselves, though they will surely reap the rewards of being the best. Rather, they build things that last beyond themselves, things that can be enjoyed by others as well.

The Best Are Adept at the Two Most Important Pieces of Time and Personal Management: Prioritize and Execute. Just like weight loss boils down to eating right and exercise, personal management boils down to prioritize and execute. First, prioritize your activities. The important stuff goes on the top. Then, execute: do them. The best have habits and discipline that get them to the top by doing the best things and doing them first.

The Best Focus on Building Relationships. Success does not come alone. Everyone who achieves much does it with the help of countless others. How do the Best get others to help them? They treat them right. They embrace them and help them. People become the best because they help other people, and people like them.

The Best Make No Excuses. When they fail, they admit it and move on. They get back up and do it right the next time. They let their actions speak louder than their words. They stand tall and do the right thing the next time. No excuses, just results.

The Best Understand That the Good Is the Enemy of the Best. Yes, they could say, “This is good.” But that would mean they have settled for less than the best. Many people think that good is good. Good is not good. Good is the enemy because it keeps us from the best. Choose your side: the good or the best. The Best choose, you guessed it, the Best.

The Best Dare to Dream. While others live the mundane and settle into a life they never bargained for, a rut, the Best dream of a better life. And then they take the risks necessary to achieve their dreams. They live by Teddy Roosevelt’s quote: Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in the grey twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.

Want to be the best at what you do? Take inventory on the above characteristics and then start moving to bring your life in line with the characteristics of the “Best.” Then when you get to the top you will know that you have passed the “Best” Test.

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