Your Hidden Fuel by anthony

by anthony on April 21, 2011

Many people think of dissatisfaction as a negative emotion that should be suppressed or denied, but in actual fact dissatisfaction is one of the most important ingredients for success.

Time For Change

What most people don’t realize is that dissatisfaction is a powerful form of fuel that has been the driving force behind many of the world’s greatest achievements.

You see, in order to be dissatisfied, you must want something.

And if you can identify what it is that you want and then stoke the fuel of your dissatisfaction, at some point it will ignite and propel you to take action.

Here’s an example that illustrates how this works in the real world.

Yani was a concierge in a large city hotel. He always did his best to help hotel guests and tried to maintain a positive attitude, however, deep down Yani was dissatisfied with his job and career prospects.

Whenever Yani became aware of his dissatisfaction, he tried to suppress it. He told himself not to have a negative attitude and to just accept his lot in life.

However, one night after dealing with a particularly rude and arrogant guest, Yani knew he had to face facts – he was dissatisfied and it was time to do something about it.

He analyzed his dissatisfaction and after a considerable amount of thought, Yani realized that what he really wanted was to pursue his interest in computers and technology, but he had no idea how to go about making such a major life change.

He knew he could not just quit because he had bills to pay, but over time Yani’s dissatisfaction continued to grow and like fuel to a fire, it increased his desire to make a change.

When Yani came across an advertisement in a newspaper for adult night classes in computer programming, the fuel of his dissatisfaction ignited and propelled him into action. He rearranged his hotel shifts and immediately enrolled in the course.

Two years later, Yani walked through the lobby of the hotel with a laptop bag across his shoulder. The computer consulting company he now worked for was holding a conference in the hotel function centre.

The hotel hadn’t changed, but Yani had. Fueled by his dissatisfaction, he had taken action and had succeeded in changing his circumstances and the direction of his life.

“Dissatisfaction is man’s driving force.”
- W. Clement Stone

So the next time you feel dissatisfied about something in your life, instead of dismissing or denying your dissatisfaction, recognize it for what it truly is – a hidden fuel that can spur you on to achievement and success.

Remember that if you are dissatisfied, then you must want something. Spend the time to clarify what it is that you want, and utilize your dissatisfaction to propel yourself into action and make your dreams a reality.

Until next time,

Dare to Dream!
Anthony

Beyond the Comfort Zone by Tom Hopkins

            The average human being has the ability to achieve almost anything.  Lack of basic capability is rarely the problem–we all have great reserves of untapped power. The problem is almost always in finding out what we want.  Before we go any further, let me define how I’m using the word “want” here.  I’m not talking about mere wishes. I’m talking about wants that gnaw at you.

            Maybe you think you don’t have any gnawing wants.  If you think that, you’re wrong. You have the wants. But, they’re bottled up where you can’t get at them. They’ll stay there, too, coming out as blind resistance to change, refusal to put out extra effort or the insistence that all your problems are the cause of others.

            What makes us bottle up all of our wants and desires? For most people, it’s the fear of failure. They’re plenty comfortable doing exactly what they’re doing today. They’re paying their bills and can have a nice two week vacation each year. But the desire for that extra special vacation is inside them waiting to be fulfilled. Their want of a nice, new car is starting to gnaw. Their children want to go to a better school than they can afford on their current income. After a while, they’re not so comfortable anymore with the way they’re living. They begin to realize that the pain of change they’ve feared has become a necessary evil to rid themselves of the pain of not having their wants fulfilled.

            The way to see yourself clear of all of this pain is in planning–setting goals. You must set goals for yourself that make you stretch beyond your comfort zone. If you really want something, something that’ll make a difference in your life, you’ll be willing to make sacrifices to get it. You’ll deliberately change yourself and grow to get what you really want. But, you won’t do any of these things for mere wishes. That’s why you must put what you think you want on paper.

            Next, your goals must be specific. Broad desires and lofty aims have no effect.  Merely wanting to be somebody or having the determination to make it big isn’t enough. Until you translate your vague wishes into concrete goals and plans, you aren’t going to make much progress.

            Your goals must also be believable. This is one of the more vital aspects of goal setting. If you don’t truly believe you can achieve a goal, you won’t pay the price for it.

            The most effective goal is an exciting challenge. If your goal doesn’t push you beyond where you’ve been before–if it doesn’t demand your best and a bit more that you didn’t realize you had in you–it isn’t going to change your ways and elevate your lifestyle.

            Set your goals right now and adjust them later if you decide you’ve aimed too high or too low. They aren’t carved in granite. So you get excited about something and after you learn more about it, decide you’ve reached too far. It’s okay to change. But don’t put off setting goals until you know more. Keep that level of excitement high.

            Set short term goals for yourself so you can feel that sense of achievement soon. Short term goals shouldn’t be longer than 90 days. If you need to see results sooner than that, set a goal for 30 days or even a week. You have to do what feels right for you. Also, set up a reward program for yourself.  It could be as simple as going to lunch at a new restaurant if you make 100 calls by a set date and time.

            Include your loved ones in your goals.  You’ll be amazed at how hard you can work when your kids know they’ll benefit from you reaching a goal.  And, when their goals are intimately involved in yours, they’ll give you support and encouragement when you need it.

            Set goals in all areas of your life. Goals aren’t just for making money.  Set them for health, exercise, and to fulfill other personal and spiritual needs.  Goal setting is too valuable a tool to reserve it only for your career achievements.

            You must set aside time to review your goals on a regular basis.  Check your progress, make adjustments and set new goals as the old ones are met.

            The whole idea of goal setting is to plan your life rather than just letting it happen.  I suggest you take charge and begin by planning 20 year goals.  First, list the personal achievements you want to accomplish.  Who and what do you want to be in 20 years?  What do you want to own?  Where, and in what kind of housing do you want to live?  Again, you’re working with goals that can be changed.  What are the status symbols you’ve always dreamed of?  What do you want for your family?

            Start thinking about the net worth you want to have 20 years down the road.  Start watching your equity position now and get ready for the future.  It only happens when you start writing down goals, working with them and causing your mind to reach out.  Take a hard look at the future and at yourself.  Say, “That’s the person I want to be in 20 years, and I’m willing and eager to pay the price to become that person.”

            Once you have your 20 year goals sketched out, cut them in half and there are your 10 years goals.  Halve them again, and you’ve got your five year goals.  Do it one more time and your 30 month goals appear before your eyes.  Then, set up your next 12 month’s goals.  Work on this one carefully.  Then, break your one year schedule of goals down to months, weeks and finally to goals for tomorrow and for each day of the coming week.

            You might be thinking that this will take a lot of time.  Think about this:  Isn’t making a success of your life worth a little time?  But let’s be honest, it’s not the time that’s troubling you.  It’s the idea of submitting to a form of discipline, even self-imposed discipline.  Think that through before you decide to turn away from this idea because if you’re not willing to accept your own discipline, you’re going to accomplish only 2% of what you could and you’re going to miss out on 98% of the good things you could have.

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