7 Steps for Creating the Life YOU Want by Jack Canfield

We all aspire to do, be and have great things. Yet most of us simply aren’t creating the results we want. We complain that we don’t have enough money, romance, success or joy in our lives.

We point fingers and blame outside problems that “happen” to us and make life more difficult. But what we need to understand and keep at the forefront of our minds is that greatness exists in all of us. It is simply up to us to pull it out of ourselves. Regardless of personal circumstances, economic climates, and access to resources, it helps to maintain faith in the fact we each are more powerful than we think.

We all have the ability to create the life we want. We just need to learn how to do it. Is there an exact “formula”? No, but there are certain common features that successful people exhibit and that anyone can practice. They are what can jumpstart your success and attract what you want in life. You’d be hard pressed to find any high achiever who doesn’t live by the following 7 tips:

1. Take No Less than 100% Responsibility for Your Life
One of the greatest myths that is pervasive in our culture today is that you are entitled to a great life and that somehow, somewhere, someone is responsible for filling our lives with continual happiness, exciting career options, nurturing family time and blissful personal relationships simply because we exist. But the real truth is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live. That person is you.

Everything about you is a result of your doing or not doing. Income. Debt. Relationships. Health. Fitness level. Attitudes and behaviors. That person who reflects back at you in the mirror is the chief conductor in your life. Say hello!

I think everyone knows this in their hearts, but the mind can play games, tricking plenty of people into thinking external factors are the source of failure, disappointment, and unhappiness. But the truth of the matter is that external factors don’t determine how you live. You are in complete control of the quality of your life.

Successful people take full responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualize, and the actions they take. They don’t waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the life they want to live.

2. Be Clear Why You’re Here
I believe each of us is born with a life purpose. Identifying, acknowledging and honoring this purpose is perhaps the most important action successful people take. They take the time to understand what they’re here to do, and then they pursue that with passion and enthusiasm.

If you don’t know what you’re supposed to be doing, then just tune in to the signals around you. Looking toward others for help and guidance is helpful, but don’t forget to stay tuned in to yourself—your behavior, attitude, likes and dislikes, and life experiences. Identify what’s working and what isn’t. If you need to, write it all down. You might be surprised by what you discover.

3. Decide What You Want
It sounds so simple, but here’s the problem: I see plenty of people who are overly-busy yet who feel unsatisfied and unfulfilled. They are physically tired, spiritually drained, and far from where they’d like to be—as if they’ve been running on a treadmill going nowhere fast. Why? Because they haven’t clearly mapped out what they want and then taken the steps to get there. Rather than identifying specific goals, milestones, and dreams (and I’m talking BIG dreams and goals here), they go through the motions day in and day out tackling unimportant tasks. They end up…you guessed it…going in circles and wasting lots of energy. In the meanwhile, they grow increasingly uninspired and out of touch with their authentic selves. This, of course, sets anyone up to living a life out of balance.

One of the main reasons why most people don’t get what they want is they haven’t decided what they want. They haven’t defined their desires in clear and compelling detail. What does success look like to you? Not everybody’s definition of success is the same, nor should it be.

Don’t let your inner devil’s advocate (or that incessant but unimportant To Do list) inhibit you from dreaming big. As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You’ll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, but they also compel others to want to play big, too.

4. Believe It Is Possible
Scientists used to believe that humans responded to information flowing into the brain from the outside world. But today, they’re learning that instead we respond to what the brain, based on previous experience, expects to happen next. In fact, the mind is such a powerful instrument; it can deliver literally everything you want. But you have to believe that what you want is possible.

As you commit to believing in yourself, also make a commitment to toning down the complaint department. Look at what you are complaining about. I’m fat. I’m tired. I can’t get out of debt. I won’t ever get a better job. I can’t stand the relationship I have with my father. I’ll never find a soulmate in life. Really examine your complaints. More than likely you can do something about them. They are not about other people, other things, or other events. They are about YOU.

5. Believe in Yourself
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of making it happen. Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence or self-assurance, it is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes; the abilities, inner resources, talents and skills to create your desired results.

Have unwavering faith in yourself, for good and bad. Make the decision to believe that you create all your experiences. You will experience successes thanks to you, and you will experience pain, struggle, and strife thanks to you. Sounds a little strange, but accepting this level of responsibility is uniquely empowering. It means you can do, change, and be anything. Stumbling blocks become just that—little hills to hop over.

6. Become an Inverse Paranoid
This one is straightforward: Imagine how much easier it would be to succeed in life if you were constantly expecting the world to support you and bring you opportunity. Successful people do just that.

7. Unleash the Power of Goal Setting
Experts on the science of success know the brain is a goal-seeking organism. Whatever goal you give to your subconscious mind, it will work day and night to achieve. To engage you subconscious mind, a goal has to be measurable. When there aren’t any criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, or a good idea.

Sometimes we need to make just one initial goal to get started, and that’s okay. At least it comes with a few actions to achieve. A first step simply can be making an immediate change in a single area in your life. Are you unhappy about something that is happening right now? Make requests that will make it more desirable to you, or take the steps to change it yourself. Making a change might be uncomfortable and overwhelming for you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it, or makes you feel bad about your decision. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but staying put is your choice so why continue to complain? You can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for your choices.

Bear in mind that you have to be willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want. If you’ve already taken an initial step in the right direction, now’s the time to plan more steps to keep moving you forward faster.

Isn’t it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be? Isn’t it wonderful that your successes do not depend on someone else?

So if you need just one thing to do different today than you did yesterday, make it this: Commit to taking 100% responsibility for every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it is much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!

Six Ways to Take Charge of 2012

New year, new outlook. Stephen Covey, one of the most prolific leadership authors of our time, says there are six things you can do right now to make 2012 your best year ever:
1. Be proactive.
It’s more than just taking initiative. It means being responsible for your own life. Empower yourself to lead and spread your influence no matter what position you hold.
2. Sharpen the saw.
Decide what’s truly important. Sharpen your saw early in the day by learning to say no to the unimportant and yes to the highly important
3. Seek to understand before seeking to be understood.
It’s human nature to want to be understood, but when both parties are trying to be understood, neither party is listening. By making the investment to understand the other party, you can magically transform the course of your conversations.
4. Begin with the end in mind.
Start today with an image of the end of your life as the frame of reference by which everything else is examined. With a clear idea of where you are going, examine everything in the context of what matters to you most.
5. Develop a vision mission statement.
Get a deep sense of your life’s mission, purpose and value system, then establish your goals and a system of accountability that keeps you on track.
6. Think win-win.
There is enough success for everyone, so don’t view another person’s success as success achieved at your expense or exclusion.

Get Clear on What You Want

Are you ready to make 2012 your best year yet?

It’s easy to start the new year full of enthusiasm and optimism. But to maintain your momentum through the year, you need to set powerful, crystal-clear goals

The first step to getting what you want out of life this is to decide exactly what you want.

What do you want to accomplish?
What do you want to experience?
What do you want to acquire?
Who do you want to be?

One of primary reasons most people don’t get what they want is that they aren’t clear about what they want. Others will recognize what they’d like to have, but when they can’t see how it’s possible to get what they want, and they dismiss their desires as foolish and unattainable.

Don’t sabotage yourself this way!

After decades of research into how the human brain works, scientists now know that for our brains to figure out how to get what we want, we must first decide what we want. Once we lock-in our desires, our mind and the universe can step in to help make our dreams a reality.

Dream Big

We start the process by getting clear about what we want. So, what do you want? To create a balanced and successful life, write down a minimum of 3 goals in each of the following 7 areas:

Financial Goals
Career/Business Goals
Free Time/Family Time
Health/Appearance Goals
Relationship Goals
Personal Growth
Making a Difference

If you have more goals than this, don’t limit yourself – write them down! On the other hand, if writing down 21 goals seems like a lot, remember that we can have a mix of long- and short-term goals. For example, in the financial area, you may have a short-term goal of paying off a $5,000 credit card balance, as well as a long-term goal of amassing a net worth of $5 million dollars. You want to keep both goals present in your mind, even though you’ll be working more actively on the short-term goal first.

Stretch Yourself

When setting our goals, it’s important to include a few that will make us stretch and grow to achieve them. These might be learning a new skill or trying something that is uncomfortable and maybe a little frightening, such as public speaking. It also helps to set a breakthrough goal that would represent a quantum leap. Examples of breakthrough goals include publishing a book, starting a business, getting on Oprah, winning a gold medal at the Olympics, or getting elected president of your industry association.

Material goals are important, but the ultimate goal is to become a master at life. In the long run, the greatest benefit we receive from pursuing our dreams is not the outer trappings of fulfilling the dream, but who we become in the process.

The outer symbols of success can all be easily lost. Houses burn down, companies go bankrupt, relationships end, cars get old, bodies age and fame wanes, but who you are, what you have learned, and the new skills you have developed never go away. These are the true prizes of success. Motivational philosopher Jim Rohn advises that “You should set a goal big enough that in the process of achieving it, you become someone worth becoming.”

Turn Your Dreams Into Goals and Objectives

Once you are clear about what you want, write them down and turn each item into a measurable objective. Measurable means measurable in space and time – how much and by when.

For instance, if you were to tell me that you wanted more money, I might pull out a dollar and give it to you. You would probably protest, saying “No, I meant a lot more money, like $20,000!” But there is no way I’d know how you’d define “more money” unless you tell me, right?

Similarly, your boss, your friends, your spouse, your brain, God, and the Universe can’t figure out what you want unless you tell them specifically what it is. What exactly do you want and when do you want it by?

Your Goals Impact Others

As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You’ll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, they compel others to want to play big, too.

You’ll also discover that when your dreams include service to others – that is, accomplishing something that contributes to others – it accelerates the accomplishment of that goal. People want to be part of something that contributes and makes a difference.

Work on Your Goals Daily

To keep your subconscious mind focused on what you want, read your list of goals everyday. For an even more powerful approach, close your eyes and focus on each goal and ask yourself, “What is one thing I could do today to move toward the achievement of this goal?” Write down your answers and take those actions.

As the old joke goes, “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” Steady progress in bite-sized chunks puts even the most audacious goals into reach.

Get Clear on What You Want-Jack Canfield

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Plan and Prepare in Advance by Brian Tracy

Plan and Prepare in Advance
By: Brian Tracy

Use A
Time Planner
A time planner, broken down by day, hour and minute, organized in
advance, can be one of the most powerful, personal productivity tools of all.
It enables you to see where you can consolidate and create blocks of time for
concentrated work.

Eliminate
All Distractions
During this working time, you turn off the telephone, eliminate
all distractions and work non-stop. One of the best work habits of all is for
you to get up early and work at home in the morning for several hours. You can
get three times as much work done at home without interruptions as you ever
could in a busy office where you are surrounded by people and bombarded by
phone calls.

Create
an Office in the Air
When you fly on business, you can create your office in the air by
planning your work thoroughly before you depart. When the plane takes off, you
can work non-stop for the entire flight. You will be amazed at how much work
you can go through when you work steadily in an airplane, without
interruptions.


Make
Every Minute Count
One of the keys to high levels of performance and productivity is
for you to make every minute count. Use travel and transition time, what is
often called “gifts of time” to complete small chunks of larger
tasks.

Remember, the pyramids were built one block at a time. A great life and a great
career is built one task, and often, one part of a task, at a time. Your job in
time management is to deliberately and creatively organize the concentrated
time periods you need to get your key jobs done well, and on schedule.

Action
Exercises
Here are two steps you can take immediately to put these ideas
into action.

First, think continually of different ways that you can save, schedule and
consolidate large chunks of time. Use this time to work on important tasks with
the most significant long-term consequences.

Second, make every minute count. Work steadily and continuously without
diversion or distraction by planning and preparing your work in advance. Most
of all, keep focused on the most important results for which you are
responsible.

Your Hidden Fuel by anthony

by anthony on April 21, 2011

Many people think of dissatisfaction as a negative emotion that should be suppressed or denied, but in actual fact dissatisfaction is one of the most important ingredients for success.

Time For Change

What most people don’t realize is that dissatisfaction is a powerful form of fuel that has been the driving force behind many of the world’s greatest achievements.

You see, in order to be dissatisfied, you must want something.

And if you can identify what it is that you want and then stoke the fuel of your dissatisfaction, at some point it will ignite and propel you to take action.

Here’s an example that illustrates how this works in the real world.

Yani was a concierge in a large city hotel. He always did his best to help hotel guests and tried to maintain a positive attitude, however, deep down Yani was dissatisfied with his job and career prospects.

Whenever Yani became aware of his dissatisfaction, he tried to suppress it. He told himself not to have a negative attitude and to just accept his lot in life.

However, one night after dealing with a particularly rude and arrogant guest, Yani knew he had to face facts – he was dissatisfied and it was time to do something about it.

He analyzed his dissatisfaction and after a considerable amount of thought, Yani realized that what he really wanted was to pursue his interest in computers and technology, but he had no idea how to go about making such a major life change.

He knew he could not just quit because he had bills to pay, but over time Yani’s dissatisfaction continued to grow and like fuel to a fire, it increased his desire to make a change.

When Yani came across an advertisement in a newspaper for adult night classes in computer programming, the fuel of his dissatisfaction ignited and propelled him into action. He rearranged his hotel shifts and immediately enrolled in the course.

Two years later, Yani walked through the lobby of the hotel with a laptop bag across his shoulder. The computer consulting company he now worked for was holding a conference in the hotel function centre.

The hotel hadn’t changed, but Yani had. Fueled by his dissatisfaction, he had taken action and had succeeded in changing his circumstances and the direction of his life.

“Dissatisfaction is man’s driving force.”
- W. Clement Stone

So the next time you feel dissatisfied about something in your life, instead of dismissing or denying your dissatisfaction, recognize it for what it truly is – a hidden fuel that can spur you on to achievement and success.

Remember that if you are dissatisfied, then you must want something. Spend the time to clarify what it is that you want, and utilize your dissatisfaction to propel yourself into action and make your dreams a reality.

Until next time,

Dare to Dream!
Anthony

Beyond the Comfort Zone by Tom Hopkins

            The average human being has the ability to achieve almost anything.  Lack of basic capability is rarely the problem–we all have great reserves of untapped power. The problem is almost always in finding out what we want.  Before we go any further, let me define how I’m using the word “want” here.  I’m not talking about mere wishes. I’m talking about wants that gnaw at you.

            Maybe you think you don’t have any gnawing wants.  If you think that, you’re wrong. You have the wants. But, they’re bottled up where you can’t get at them. They’ll stay there, too, coming out as blind resistance to change, refusal to put out extra effort or the insistence that all your problems are the cause of others.

            What makes us bottle up all of our wants and desires? For most people, it’s the fear of failure. They’re plenty comfortable doing exactly what they’re doing today. They’re paying their bills and can have a nice two week vacation each year. But the desire for that extra special vacation is inside them waiting to be fulfilled. Their want of a nice, new car is starting to gnaw. Their children want to go to a better school than they can afford on their current income. After a while, they’re not so comfortable anymore with the way they’re living. They begin to realize that the pain of change they’ve feared has become a necessary evil to rid themselves of the pain of not having their wants fulfilled.

            The way to see yourself clear of all of this pain is in planning–setting goals. You must set goals for yourself that make you stretch beyond your comfort zone. If you really want something, something that’ll make a difference in your life, you’ll be willing to make sacrifices to get it. You’ll deliberately change yourself and grow to get what you really want. But, you won’t do any of these things for mere wishes. That’s why you must put what you think you want on paper.

            Next, your goals must be specific. Broad desires and lofty aims have no effect.  Merely wanting to be somebody or having the determination to make it big isn’t enough. Until you translate your vague wishes into concrete goals and plans, you aren’t going to make much progress.

            Your goals must also be believable. This is one of the more vital aspects of goal setting. If you don’t truly believe you can achieve a goal, you won’t pay the price for it.

            The most effective goal is an exciting challenge. If your goal doesn’t push you beyond where you’ve been before–if it doesn’t demand your best and a bit more that you didn’t realize you had in you–it isn’t going to change your ways and elevate your lifestyle.

            Set your goals right now and adjust them later if you decide you’ve aimed too high or too low. They aren’t carved in granite. So you get excited about something and after you learn more about it, decide you’ve reached too far. It’s okay to change. But don’t put off setting goals until you know more. Keep that level of excitement high.

            Set short term goals for yourself so you can feel that sense of achievement soon. Short term goals shouldn’t be longer than 90 days. If you need to see results sooner than that, set a goal for 30 days or even a week. You have to do what feels right for you. Also, set up a reward program for yourself.  It could be as simple as going to lunch at a new restaurant if you make 100 calls by a set date and time.

            Include your loved ones in your goals.  You’ll be amazed at how hard you can work when your kids know they’ll benefit from you reaching a goal.  And, when their goals are intimately involved in yours, they’ll give you support and encouragement when you need it.

            Set goals in all areas of your life. Goals aren’t just for making money.  Set them for health, exercise, and to fulfill other personal and spiritual needs.  Goal setting is too valuable a tool to reserve it only for your career achievements.

            You must set aside time to review your goals on a regular basis.  Check your progress, make adjustments and set new goals as the old ones are met.

            The whole idea of goal setting is to plan your life rather than just letting it happen.  I suggest you take charge and begin by planning 20 year goals.  First, list the personal achievements you want to accomplish.  Who and what do you want to be in 20 years?  What do you want to own?  Where, and in what kind of housing do you want to live?  Again, you’re working with goals that can be changed.  What are the status symbols you’ve always dreamed of?  What do you want for your family?

            Start thinking about the net worth you want to have 20 years down the road.  Start watching your equity position now and get ready for the future.  It only happens when you start writing down goals, working with them and causing your mind to reach out.  Take a hard look at the future and at yourself.  Say, “That’s the person I want to be in 20 years, and I’m willing and eager to pay the price to become that person.”

            Once you have your 20 year goals sketched out, cut them in half and there are your 10 years goals.  Halve them again, and you’ve got your five year goals.  Do it one more time and your 30 month goals appear before your eyes.  Then, set up your next 12 month’s goals.  Work on this one carefully.  Then, break your one year schedule of goals down to months, weeks and finally to goals for tomorrow and for each day of the coming week.

            You might be thinking that this will take a lot of time.  Think about this:  Isn’t making a success of your life worth a little time?  But let’s be honest, it’s not the time that’s troubling you.  It’s the idea of submitting to a form of discipline, even self-imposed discipline.  Think that through before you decide to turn away from this idea because if you’re not willing to accept your own discipline, you’re going to accomplish only 2% of what you could and you’re going to miss out on 98% of the good things you could have.

Bringing Balance to a Chaotic Life By Chris Widener

“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” I love this quote by Harvey MacKay, one of my contemporaries in the author and motivational speaker space. It shows the value of time; the one thing we ALL have. What we do with it, now that makes the difference. How do we achieve balance and make the most of our time? Read on …..

Time is yours…Use It!
Chris Widener


 

If I had to make a composite question that gets at the heart of the question that I am asked most frequently, it would be this:

How can I manage my time more effectively and bring balance to my life in regard to work, family, friends, and social obligations?

With this in mind, I want to give us some thoughts to focus us in on the answer to that question.

I am convinced that the most important thing we must do is to be acutely aware of the reasons I should manage my time and bring balance to my life. In fact, most of us really know “how” to do it, don’t we? Then why don’t we? I think it comes to the issue of having a powerful motivating factor or reason. Below are two of mine that keep me motivated:

A life of accomplishment. When I am old and unable to get out with the young folks anymore, I want to be able to look back on my life and say that I accomplished much and that my life benefited others. That is why I do what I do now. It is what drives me to pursue what I pursue with a passion and vigor. It is why I bring my life into balance is many areas so I can achieve much in many areas.

A legacy. Here is a powerful motivating image that I picture with regularity: Picture a family gathering five years after your death. What will it look like? What will the people be talking about? How will they remember you? What will be the quality of their lives and how will you have been instrumental in that? These are questions that we can for the most part, answer now by how we live our lives (for better or for worse). Our lives make a difference in the lives of others! This is a tremendous reason to bring my life into balance!

Once we answer the “Why” question, and root it firmly in our minds and hearts, we come to the “hows.”

First, we sit down and prioritize. Have you ever taken a couple of hours and listed everything that you are involved in or could be involved in and then prioritized it by importance? You may come up with a hundred items but that is okay. You will want to separate them into some categories as well, such as Work, Family, Health, Friends, Hobbies, Spiritual, Financial, Intellectual, Emotional, etc.

Now you have something to look at and see what is important. This will help you in the process of eliminating areas from your life that you are spending time on that you shouldn’t be. And that is an important part: Frustration comes when we get involved in something that isn’t a priority and we kick ourselves the whole time we do it. If we stick to priorities, we eliminate much of that.

The next step is to learn the most powerful word in the human language: No. Just look in the mirror and practice saying that word with a smile on your face. This may be the most important part – learning to decline opportunity. It all depends on whether or not it fits in with our priorities.

Here is the principle that drives this:

Good is the enemy of the best.

There are lots of good things we can spend our time on. But because they replace those things that would be the best things we could spend our time on, they become our enemy. They become counter-productive to a successful and balanced life.

So ask yourself: Is this good? Or is it the best? Do the best you can to stick to the best!

Schedule your time. The more we fly by the seat of our pants, the more apt we are to lose control of our time. If we schedule out our time, we can become a bit more objective and bring our lives into balance. For example, you may make it your goal to be home by six o’clock every night. In your schedule book, you write in that you have an appointment at six. You schedule to leave the office at five-thirty. Now when a co-worker comes in with an “opportunity” for you to work on, you say, “Sorry, I have an appointment at six that I can’t break. Let’s get together on it first thing in the morning.” Scheduling your time, coupled with saying “no,” will do wonders for bringing your life into balance!

Another aspect for us to look at is the area of external pressure that causes us to be out of balance. For example, financial obligations may be what keep us working too much. So we should look at those obligations and see if we can eliminate or reduce them.

The last thing I would challenge you with is to give some thought as to what the secret pleasures of being out of balance may be. For example, sometimes we let ourselves over commit because we don’t like conflict. Peace is our secret pleasure.

Sometimes we allow ourselves to become out of balance because we like it when people say, “Boy, she sure is a dynamo. Look how busy she is.” Admiration from others is our secret pleasure.

In review:

  • Find the right reasons
  • Set priorities
  • Learn to say “no”
  • Understand that the good is the enemy of the best
  • Schedule your time
  • Manage External pressures
  • Be aware of internal “secret pleasures”

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